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23 June 2010
They say you can find the answers to ANYTHING on the 'net, so...
--use it on someone YOU know, to get your point across... http://j7is.me/cui0y
09 June 2010
Words to live by
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Danny Choo (@dannychoo):6/9/10 12:06 PM
“The best way to counter-attack a hater is to make it blatantly obvious that their attack has had no impact on you” - Tim Ferris
via Twittelator
Truer words were never tweeted.
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08 April 2010
HD Video: 犬山ç¥2010 Inuyama festival
Here's some video from the Inuyama festival I shot with the new HD cam, lovingly donated to me--thanx fam.
More info on the festival can be found along with my pictures:
The Adventures of J.L. Gatewood: 犬山春ç¥ã‚Š2010
http://j7is.me/cCemeG
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03 March 2010
Short Documentary in Japan: Life as Dad
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In this incredibly moving and beautifully shot entry, Anthony Gilmore shares with us a glimpse into the life of Craig Morrey - a 40 year old American living in Okazaki, Japan. His three-year- old son, Spencer, is severally handicapped with cerebral palsy and requires around the clock care.
via bbc.co.uk
My friend and fellow multimedia extraordinaire Satomi Okane (http://goo.gl/5BlR) produced this here piece. A very moving story and great insight into the challenges of parenthood.Posted via web from ...all about starrwulfe...
07 February 2010
If a 14-year-old can do it...
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Just thought I'd share something that's inspiring, and also let's everyone know that young folks ARE ready to stand up and take over, if given a fair chance and proper guidance.
Then you read stories like this about a girl who started a magazine when she was in 4th grade of elementary school... Outta the mouths of babes, right?
Savannah Britt was a published poet by the age of eight. By nine, she was hired as a paid reviewer of children’s books for The Kitchen Table News – a New Jersey newspaper with a readership of 70,000. But when that newspaper went under, Savannah was left unemployed at the tender age of 11.
Like any great entrepreneur, Savannah pulled herself up by her bootstraps. She started her own publication – a magazine called Girlpez – making her the youngest magazine publisher in the world. The magazine features coverage of events, like concerts and fashion shows, along with interviews from the likes of Shwayze, Kevin Rudolf, and Dawn from Dannity Kane.
Now 15, Savannah has guided her magazine as it has transitioned to an online-only format at Girlpez.com. She hopes to use her influence to strengthen girls and their communities.
Q: For most teenagers, getting a summer job counts as being ambitious. What do you think drove you above and beyond, towards entrepreneurship?
A: I like a challenge. I think what drove me to start my magazine was the fact that I was so young and I was doing something that nobody around me was doing. That pushed me, honestly, to start my magazine. I can be a competitive person.
My mom and dad definitely pushed me as well. My dad has published three books and he’s a very determined person. If he says something, he’s going to do it. He’s also optimistic and he does not procrastinate at all. I think he inspired me.
Q: How did you balance other priorities (in particular: school, friends, and family) with your business?
A: It’s really hard. I’m in all honors courses, so I have to balance the studies with the magazine. I go to school six hours a day and I have basketball practice afterwards. Then I go straight home and [conduct an] interview if I can. Even some Saturday mornings I’ll do interviews, because it’s the only time I can squeeze them in. On top of that, I’m currently working on a music project that I’m trying to get attention for from labels.
Somehow I do it all. I don’t know how, but it gets done. I’ve got a calendar in front of me. It’s hard, but I make it work. When I was about 14, in eighth grade, I thought that [Girlpez] was putting a strain on me and that I wouldn’t be able to focus on grades. But I was able to bounce back. I have always been a very independent person, but I finally sought help from my parents.
Q: Anything else you would like to add?
A: I would like to raise money for Haiti [following the earthquake of January, 2010]. It’s a sad experience that’s going on there, but it’s definitely something that I want to address. It’s a wake-up call for the world that there a lot of people who are stricken by poverty.
Also, I’m working with another young entrepreneur who runs a blog, Jayswag.com. We want to put together a conference that will feature people in the industry who are well-versed in hip-hop. We want to have a panel of them and have teens be able to come ask questions and have a discussion.
There are some things in the hip-hop industry that go under the rug and they need to be addressed – like the way they portray women in the music videos, the people they put in the ads, and whether or not their skin color matters. It’s something that needs to be discussed.
This is an abridged version from Savannah’s interview in our latest project, 50 Interviews: Young Entrepreneurs. Savannah left me speechless a few times in this interview. It’s remarkable to talk to a young girl who has so much direction and determination in her life. You will be seeing more of her down the road.
via juniorbiz.com
Being in the magazine business is hard work... Really hard. When 4 buddies and I got together this time last year to start RAN magazine, we really had no idea what we were getting ourselves into; we just wanted our area to know all the stuff we hear on the streets everyday. Now after 3 issues, we've ironed out most of the potholes in our workflow, and gotten a good head of steam going as far as motivation is concerned. But sometimes we get bogged down into the depths of our own languidness. We all have full-time jobs here as English teachers, and we all also have separate side jobs as well. So it's easy to become burned-out. Then you read stories like this about a girl who started a magazine when she was in 4th grade of elementary school... Outta the mouths of babes, right?
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08 December 2009
Mental Blockade (Chopped & Screwed)
Via my Drop.io storage bank
chillin here with the fellas trying to help Trev come up with a better synopsis for his script... Gonna be a long night...
27 November 2009
Working in Japan--Joe's last day as a corporate suit
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image from tamegoeswild @ flickr
This is the last time that I put on a suit and commute across Tokyo on the rush hour trains - and I am very happy! I'll be leaving the company I've worked at since returning to Japan a year ago, and joining a local publishing / media company www.whiterabbitpress.com - they're the folks who produce the world's no.1-selling kanji flash cards, kanji poster, and who recently have started producing audio tours of Tokyo (Kabukicho and Akihabara so far). You might even find a certain Danny Choo on the Akihabara tour! Working at a Japanese education company (specialising in English and Chinese) for a year has been an interesting experience. I feel I've learnt a lot about how business is done in Japan. (Before I go on I would state that I am not singling out the company I have been working for - these are general reflections based on my experience and the experience of friends in other companies, and could be found throughout Japanese workplaces) I've learnt how much more important Appearance (tatemae) is than Substance or what I would call 'Truth' (honne) in business here. Sometimes it makes your jaw drop when someone says something that everyone knows is completely untrue! It's often been observed that whilst Japanese employees may work long hours, that doesn't mean they work hard. People are very good at keeping up appearances and pretending to be busy, to show that they are loyal workers. Then there's the rules - It's said that Japan has a lot of unspoken social rules - join a typical Japanese company and you'll find a lot of these! Despite all this, I think if you have the chance to work for a Japanese company you should take it. I feel it was an immensley valuable experience for me, and I'm grateful for the experience. For the most part I've enjoyed it too!! As I mentioned, I was working in the education field - and I think it's worth passing on what I've seen happen in the past year to others who might be thinking of teaching English in Japan. My first bit of advice would be Don't Do It! ...at least not at the moment. English teaching in Japan is suffering terribly from the recession. Hourly rates have dropped, and for those wanting to teach business English there are far fewer hours available. Many smaller employers have folded as corporate clients cut back on English education budgets, and the larger chains (Gaba/Berlitz etc) are squeezing their teachers as much as they can. I recently visited the National Labour Union and was staggered by some of the stories of how people are being treated in this industry. The government sponsored JET Program isn't immune to this either, there have been cases of teachers having their contracts terminated after 6 months, with them re-hired by private companies on behalf of the government who provide far fewer benefits. Interac is the company to watch out for here. Having said that though there are exceptions. I was recently offered a teaching job at a major airline which paid 5.2million yen - plus multiple free domestic and international flights for me and my family every year. This is the exception not the rule though. Overall, as I arrive at my office for the last time (having spent the whole train journey tapping this out on my iPhone!), I feel grateful for this insight into another aspect of this country I call home. Joseph
via dannychoo.com
I saw this over on Danny Choo's site and had to repost it-- I feel so happy for this fellow, and hope like hell my number will come up soon. Don't get it twisted; I work in public schools, so my take is a little different-- I love the kids because they DON'T do the whole tatemae/honne thing; they only know how to be themselves. The teachers for the most part are the same way--they got into this career field to teach, not to appease. YMMV however, ne? Here's my comment from Danny's site:
You're doing what a lot of us are trying to do here man. It's the reason my other like-minded ex-pat friends and I started a magazine here in Nagoya== We are ronin journalists without a cause... So we started a company try to do it ourselves. I'd like to repost this on our magazine's blog if I may-- http://www.ranmagazine.com
send me a DM via twitter to @starrwulfe if it's ok. And good luck. I share the same sentiments as you about the whole industry here in Japan-- I avoided it as long as I could for nearly 10 years, but when my main job's contract expired without recourse, I became an ALT... I work for one of the more reputable, transparent companies here, but I still could stand to be making more ¥.
24 November 2009
J7 Blogcast: Live and Random via TwitCam.
I'm playing with a new toy called Twitcam here. With this service, I can use my twitter account (@starrwulfe) to broadcast live streams to the twitter world and then archive them later. So what's different about this vs. Qik? Live twitter-powered chat. Others can tweet the broadcast live and leave messages, or in my case, ask me questions about things. So if you have a twitter account and webcam, try it out for a spell. It didn't work too bad IMHO, but it could have been shorter... Such is live TV--err internet video...
17 November 2009
RAN Staff Brainstorming Session for Dec09 Issue...
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We can't take a single break here, lest our readers get furious for not tickling their intellectual sphincters on a bi-monthly basis... So back to the lab with Nagoya's Furious Five to come up with another way to make you go hmmm.....
27 August 2009
J7's Birthday Bash 2009!!
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18 August 2009
Real Talk: 20 Annoying Habits of Weed-Tokers
Time out for some Cannibus Culture. Yes I know weed is ILLEGAL in most of the places you're reading this from... I DON'T CARE-- I think it SHOULD be LEGAL, and that's that, end of discussion. Name one person you know who has ever OD'd, died in a car crash, shot someone, got shot, or otherwise had a totally miserable life, mamed or killed as a result of smoking reefer... None. I know plenty of the above that happened as a result of drinking alchohol, taking narcotics, crack, angel dust, and meth... SO I DON'T WANT TO HEAR IT. What I do wanna hear is your opinion on these 20 annoying things that weed-heads tend to do while getting blazed, and see if you agree...
That being said-- Weed is very ILLEGAL here in Japan. There is NO tolorance for ANY amount. Unlike back home in the States where if you have less than 35 grams, its a slap on the wrist, in Japan you could have a stick or a stem or even just a plastic bag that smells like cannibus and its at LEAST 5 years in the slammer. Yikes! Needless to say, I very very rarely take part in any toke sessions here. Japanese jail can't be fun and I ain't trying to find out!
12 August 2009
M6.6 Quake in the middle of a Typhoon...
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I guess God has it out for us over here in the Land of Cup Ramen. I was already complaining how Typhoon #9 (they don't name storms here like we do in the States) was puttin' a hurtin' on my plans... I had planned on watchigng some summer fireworks on the river that separates Gifu and Aichi prefectures in a town called Inuyama. But due to the horrendous flood-inducing, Noah-needs-to-build-another-Ark-inspiring rainfall, My plans got washed out-- pun very intentional.Then to make matters worse, at 5:07am, I was woken up to the worse quake I've felt since growing up in Los Angeles. A 6.5 on the Richter scale. It was centered in the bay off of Shizuoka prefecture, but it was deep-- 15 miles (20km) below the earth's surface. It was a surreal feeling. During the initial wave, I knew from instinct that it was a quake, but it didn't seem that bad at first. About 5 seconds into it though, the surface waves hit, and violent shaking started. I wanted to run or hide under something, but just as quickly as it started, it ended.
Well needless to say, any major quake in Japan is treated with the upmost attention, thanks in part to the Hanshin Quake of 1994. Lessons learned from the past have made a routine checking of everything from the railway system and highway structures, to utilities and buildings, a through process. Oh and just so you know, they shut down EVERYTHING while this is happening. So no train service, and no freeway for you until its checked out. It's a minor inconvenience maybe, but I can handle it-- make sure it safe BEFORE I ride!!
09 August 2009
RAN Magazine. Issue One. DONE!
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J
ust want to say to everyone that had a hand in making this happen... Thank you from the bottom of my soul. You know, I came back to Japan last year on a mission. I wanted to be able to become successful, being able to do something I love to do, in the land that I love being in. Most people thought I was off my meds when I left a decent job in Atlanta in the States (the job payed well, but I was pushed so far out of my field, I became rather bored with it.) to come back here.But since the day I got back here in Japan, I was on a mission to achieve my dreams. I seeked out like-minded people, both old friends from before, and new ones I just met. We put forth an idea. That idea was basically, "why not just go ahead and do our thing. We're photographers. We're writers. We're designers. We're entrepreneurs. We are dreamers AND doers."
So we did it. I have the first copy of RAN Magazine in my hands... and along with the other 999 copies from our first print run, we will show Nagoya that there is more to the gaijin (foreign) community than just a gaggle of loosely-connected slackers enjoying an almost free ride here on the other side of the planet. Much more.
I invite you to check out our magazine... join our facebook fan page, follow us on twitter.
Once again, thank you everyone.
PS, you can read the entire magazine.... ONLINE>> http://sn.im/ran-mag-aug2009
14 July 2009
Real Talk: What "trappin" in Japan can lead to...
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OK, time for some Real Talk--- this is a personal blog, so sometimes I will air out some dirty laundry and hit you with hard punches to the frontal lobes to get that goo in between your ears turning again... So as always being the opinionated SOB you know I am, if strong language, mature themes, and anything else that tends to be the exact opposite of something outta Disney film, happens to offend, please don't be that A-hole that reads the whole thing, and then writes me a dissertation on how you wet the bed and caught cancer or some ish AFTER reading this... Just DON'T read it at all and HEED the frikkin' WARNING!
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Now that we got the PANSIES outta the area, let's move on. Let me give you the low-down about the REAL Japan. There's that side that I really genuinely love: old temples and shrines, summer festivals, fireworks, and the beauty of a land and culture that strives to keep its traditions in balance with its technological prowess that is known the world over. However I gotta tell ya bout that other side of Japan too... No wait-- I forgot, I'm a lazy f###, I'll let my man Trev tell ya about it... Since he already blogged about it 8 hours ago or so. Incidentally, this is the same cat I've been working with on the magazine and that one music video you may know about... Anyway he'll clue you in on "trappin'" here in Japan. Back home in the ATL, trappin means the sale of illegal narcotics. But for me here in Japan, trappin means coming up on girls. Being a ladies man, scoring, pimpin', motte-motte, there are a lot of slang words used to mean the same thing-- having more than one lover at the same time. In Japan it's a hellfied phenomenon though. I mean ANY DAMN BODY can have more than one girl here. But what are the reasons behind such self-destructive behavior, hmmm? Let's find out...
The following is reposted with permission...
Multi-Culti Love
One Man’s Perspective.
By td houchen
Lots of foreign dudes get caught up in the “yellow fever” phenomenon once arriving in Japan.
You know what I mean, you get here, Japanese women show you lots of attention, you get used to it fast, suddenly, you’ve got 5 or 6 or 14 girlfriends. You’re juggling girls like a friggin’ circus freak-show, this girl gets Thursdays, this one gets Fridays, the other one gets holidays, this other one gets birthdays, this other one is a monthly, that one is good for a weekly love motel visit, this one takes you out to dinner on Wednesday nights, that next one comes over and cooks onTuesdays, Saturday nights are for trying to get more new girls, Sundays are for rest, and then you try to also reserve space somehow for your “main” girl,somehow. Oh yeah, can’t leave out the girls you have in other prefectures, the ones who you still have in your own country, etc.
Come on fellas. Don’t front. Don’t pretend that this isn’t you. Maybe not all of us, but damn sure LOTS of us easily fall into this type of lifestyle after having been here a short while. I know one dude who had 9 girlfriends at one point, and this dude brought them all out at the same time and sat them all down to eat at dinner to break up with them all simultaneously. Now that is either a ballsy, really confident dude, or a total asshole bent on self-destruction, or both.
Listen, I never and don’t intend to pass judgement on anyone living this lifestyle. It’s just too damn easy here in Japan to fall into this type of life, and coming from repressive-ass America, where just getting a damn kiss from those “liberated” American chicks can be a small damn miracle,
What I want to talk about is the “hows” and “whys” of this kind of life. And, some of the ish that goes along with trying to collect these Japanese girls like they are stamps, or postcards, or bad habits.
First though, I want to discuss how lots of dudes here lose small pieces of their soul by getting involved in the chase.
As foreign men, Western men, I know, we have some sort of code we live by when it comes to chasing women. One of these codes is that you don’t mess with your boys girl. In other words, if your man has a girlfriend, you DON’T flirt with her, you DON’T scheme behind his back on how to get his chick ,you DON’T put your boy’s business on blast so his girl can find out and LEAVE HIM FOR YOU-in other words, you don’t stab your boy in his back just to get some ass, or whatever the case may be.
There’s lots and lots of dudes here walking around with stab wounds between their shoulder blades. Are you one of them? Or-are you one of the dudes carrying the knife? Which one are you? Both? End the cycle.
Lots and lots of dudes IGNORE these rules of manhood in favor of the cheap thrill of sometimes just a one-nighter with these Japanese chicks. I gotta ask, is it worth it? Are you THAT hard up? You mean you can’t find YOUR OWN DAMN GIRL out of these millions of willing women here? You have to scheme on your boy’s girl, risk your friendship, professional relationships, work environment, reputation, not to mention risking getting your ass kicked JUST BECAUSE YOU CAN’T CONTROL YOURSELF AND RESPECT YOUR BOY’S GIRL?
WTF fellas? I have heard of TOO MANY fights, broken friendships, lost jobs, punches in the eye, scratched up cars, busted up music equipment, destroyed relationships, just because some dude HAD TO HAVE his boy’s girl, even for just one night ! ONE NIGHT. Like my man Jason would say, that’s that bullshit. I am of the notion that ain’t no p in the world worth all that nonsense, and when you forget that, then you have lost a piece of your soul homie. Check yourself before you wreck yourself, or someone does it for you.
Why is it that once dudes arrive here, they forget everything they have learned about The Code Of Manhood back in their home countries? What’s wild is that here, there is way more than enough to go around, like I said, there’s dudes with eleventeen girlfriends here, so why the hell is dude scheming on my girl?
Musicians are notorious for this. I guess because they work at night, small clubs, and there is a limited amount of women who are going to these clubs. If you find yourself involved with a woman that comes to the clubs, chances are really really good that your boy, the bass player, the drummer, the guitar player, the singer, one of them cats, is scheming on your girl. Even if you tell your boys that YOU REALLY LIKE THIS GIRL, they laugh at you and pull your card and ridicule you and MAKE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING WRONG FOR TRYING TO KEEP IT REAL WITH THIS ONE GIRL….wtf is up with THAT shit? Is our world SO DAMN CYNICAL that a man can’t at least TRY to have a sincere relationship without his boys clowning him, AND THEN them same cats are trying to creep up from behind?
Get a life.
But it DEFINITELY is not only musicians. English teachers do the same ish, only in less obvious and less devious ways. Sometimes. They hang out at the same limitednumber of bars, pubs and clubs, where the same limited number of Japanese women frequent, and they scheme on how to take the girl their friends are talking to, flirt shamelessly with their friends girlfriends and friends, and basically DON’T CARE to show ANY respect for their friends’ girls, wives, etc. THEY JUST GOTTA HAVE IT, like Spike said.
It doesn’t have to be this way. Cats have lost visas., been reported to immigration, and gotten deported over stupid ish like this. Like I said, fights break out, friendships are lost forever, reputations get destroyed and it all happens on a daily basis in our small-ass foreign community.
For what? Some ass? Some not-that-good-anyway ass? Be for real.
Get a grip fellas, if this is you, take stock of what you are doing before it’s too late. I’m not saying having 5 or 6 or 32 girlfriends is necessarily a bad thing, I’m saying don’t eff with your boys’ girl, your boys’ wife, or the honey your boy has already told you he is checking for. LEAVE IT ALONE, it ain’t worth it, keep it moving.
Now, I want to talk about some reasons WHY dudes here stock up on chicks like there’s some kinda girl shortage here. If you agree, cool, if you don’t, cool, this is, like the title suggests, one man’s opinion, if you don’t like what you’re reading you can stop NOW. I’m not getting paid to write this, I just dig writing, it’s what I do.
Here in Japan, we all know Japanese do not allow themselves any real form of expression. They hold all their emotion inside, and the truth is, they expect us to do the same, but for the most part, we ain’t really having it. If you were raised in a land where EXPRESSION is encouraged and supported, it is hard as hell to keep all your ish inside all the damn time. Expression is how you show who you are and what you feel, and Japanese are doing every damn thing they can to HIDE who they are and what they feel, it’s exactly opposite from what we have learned is the way to live. In my opinion, it is pure soul murder, but that’s just my opinion.
Back to the topic at hand, having 3 or 4 girls allows you to spread out your emotional expression, instead of you having to focus it all on one person. Lord knows, living in this country is like Chinese arithmetic, so you NEED those extra girls to lubricate your existence here. If you brought all your emotional baggage to just one girl everyday here, honey WOULD NOT be able to handle it. Funny thing is, they wouldn’t WANT to handle it either, nobody wants to hear anybody else’s ish too much or too often, and these Japanese girls DAMN SURE don’t want to hear you complain about their f*cked up society. All they want is a good time, a nutt or two, and again, KEEP IT MOVING. So, as effed up as it sounds, sometimes, life in this country almost DEMANDS that you have a few honies spread out, they help you manage, and that is REAL TALK.
Another reason dudes here pile honies like Wayne stacks paper is not so obvious, but real none-the-less.
We are not home. We are in a strange land with strange customs and little, if any, real friendships or family. Sometimes, in lots of cases, sex and relationships with women replace real friendships and real connections. It’s like a drug. Some people shoot dope or smoke herb or indulge in the alcohol to dull the pain of being alone, other dudes pick up chicks like a dog picks up sticks. With a different girl at your beck and call every night of the week, you never have to deal with the fact that YOU ARE ALONE, and NO ONE REALLY KNOWS WHO YOU ARE, and worse, no one cares. As men, we are taught that being insensitive is what we are supposed to be. Here in Japan, Japanese practice a sort of I-don’t-care-about-anything-or-anyone type of attitude, and they damn sure go out of their way to show you, the “gaijin”, that you don’t mean shit to them. You may THINK it doesn’t affect you, but it does.
And you can’t always be insensitive in an already insensitive culture.
It’ll break you.
You can “play the role”, whatever role you have carved out for yourself, with each girl you are with on any particular night, and never really have to be yourself.You may not know it, or recognize it when you are doing it, but being able to invent a new personality is wildly intoxicating. You get to RECREATE YOUR ENTIRE BEING, change your history, change your personality, wipe away your past and BECOME SOMEONE COMPLETELY NEW here in Japan. I KNOW we all know lots of dudes are doing everything BUT keeping it real, but that’s their choice, and sometimes, we HAVE to make that choice, because reality is such a scarce commodity here in the first place.
Lots of dudes here are going through a certain kind of PERMANENT IDENTITY CRISIS everyday of their lives here without knowing it, and having a bevy of girls allows them to NEVER HAVE TO REMEMBER who they really are. You know dudes like this. They are lost, but they don’t know they are lost. Are YOU lost?
Another reason similar to and tied to the previous mentioned one, is that Japan and Japanese impose an INFERIORITY complex on foreigners. They make you feel small, make you feel like you don’t belong, make you feel like you are some kind of alien, freak, outcast, weirdo, loser, clown, scumbag, criminal, villain, idiot, and all you did was SHOW UP. So, to compensate, lots of times, to get back at this society, you start collecting and boning as many women as you possibly can to bring some balance to your sense of self-esteem. Having and being able to score lots of women makes you feel better, it’s that simple, and in this society, whatever feels good or makes you THINK you feel better is VERY NECESSARY. Japanese people have NO IDEA how much pain their society inflicts on people who are NOT Japanese. Living here hurts like a needle on fire being shoved into your spine, how can I get rid of the pain? Girl, please. Make that five girls. Or six. And while you’re at it, bring your girl too, she’s cute.
Again, I am not saying this behavior is RIGHT or WRONG, I am just saying IT EXISTS and trying to make some sense of it. If you fit into any of these categories, I’m pointing them out to let you know that you are not crazy, and shed some light on why you may be doing some of the things you are doing. Lots of times we are completely isolated in this little paranoid country, and we start doing stuff and thinking things, and we wonder, “wait, am I going crazy? Am I The Only Oneexperiencing this?” No, you’re not. The only way to cure a sickness is to know you have it, that’s what this is about. If you are on the hunt constantly because you are tired of being discriminated against, either overtly or subtly, and you are on a mission to “get them back” –(Japanese society)-, then you have lost a small piece of your soul. Check yourself.
Another reason, (!), sorta like the one mentioned a few paragraphs above, is that, let’s face it, these Japanese women are exceptionally sexy, they’re clean, exotic,they actually like sex, which, I’m not all that sure if my American women do or not, they never let you know it, women’s lib be damned-but as sexy and exotic and clean as they are, Japanese women for the most part seem to somehow not really be ‘whole’ women. By this I mean, this one can cook, that one likes music, this one has a car, that other one has a nice place and lives on her own, that one speaks a little English, that one has dough, this one dresses nicely, that other one has a decent personality, that one over there has a nice ass, you get the picture? It seems really hard to find one Japanese girl who has The Total Package. So again, you compensate. You collect 5 or 6 all over the place, and you exhaust yourself going from one to the other trying to put all the pieces together and get the “effect” of having one good girl. That ish is tiring. Jumping around, trying on different personalities and whatnot, it takes the joy out of the potential romance, and from what I’ve seen here, romance is something this country could use a little more of, no, check that, a LOT more of. When you have 5 girls, there is no time to develop that lovin’ feeling for just one of them, or even two, because you are spreading yourself too thin..you’re always on the hunt for what the girl can give you, instead of what you can give the girl, and again, in this instance, you have lost a little piece of your soul always being on the hunt for what you can get. Ask yourself, had a decent kiss lately?
Another reason dudes here pack chicks is because these Japanese girls are QUICK to come out the pocket on some “what-do-you-need” type ish. I can’t comment much on this one bacuse I NEED A NEW WATCH. For real though, real talk.
My last reason why I think dudes here mack chicks like Obama signs stimulus checks, is because JAPAN IS BORING AS HELL AND THERE AIN’T NOTHING ELSE TO DO BUT CHASE THESE WOMEN.
If Japan would loosen up, and Japanese would allow themselves to really have a good time, (ever seen a salariman dance? wtf???), then maybe we’d have time to think of something else to do. But in the meantime, chasing women here is the national pastime of foreign dudes, and it ain’t likely to change anytime soon. It’s whatwe do. It’s how we get down. It’s our ish. That’s just the way it is.
Well, that’ s my two cents. For better or for worse, I write this just as my own relationship is beginning to fall apart due to me falling into one, or two, or all of these situations. I came here with good, if not great intentions, just like we all do. But, I fell victim to lots of this same ish I speak about here, and now, after 6 years, I too have lost a little piece of my soul, along with some other precious things.
I thought I’d put this out there and get some feedback about how other cats are feeling, what they are doing, how they are coping, etc.
What do you think?
Tell your truth, or, just KEEP IT MOVING.
I am not asking for anyone’s approval, as I said, I am not judging anyone, just throwing some light.
Japan ain’t easy, they are after your soul…
HOLLA.
tdh
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This is an experiment of sorts to try to tie together my online identity and my offline personality. I've made plenty of business oriented sites, but I have never actually put together one for myself personally... With the advent of social networking sites like Facebook and Myspace along with blog sites like Blogger and Twitter, I find that I have cut a wide swath here in the internet, in terms of being actively online, but there isn't one place to really tie that information together. So this will be an attempt at doing so.